My Approach
Parent Support
Parenting can be hard. We evolved raising children in community with a large network of support, but that is not how many of us live or parent today. This can leave us and our nervous systems under-resourced and overtaxed, which is the perfect recipe for parental reactivity.
So many parenting approaches begin with "first, calm yourself, and then apply these principles." If you're anything like me after my first child was born, that may feel almost impossible.
How do I calm myself when my solitary nervous system is carrying the regulation duties for myself and my children?
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The ways we get triggered, in parenting as in life, are direct pathways to what needs healing in us today. The Circle of Security Program is a valuable resource, and has been instrumental in my work as a parent. I also recognize our attachment injuries sometimes require more individual support. In our work together we can identify and work through unmet developmental needs that are coming up in your own parenting. This will clear up space for more presence and delight in your life and expand your "window of tolerance" for navigating difficulty while maintaining regulation.
As we learn to be with our own big feelings, we can better support our children with theirs.